Why do friendships end?


“What happened to you and ….?” A question asked by our parents we all dread answering.  I recently noticed how many friends have suddenly become strangers which got me wondering, ‘why do friendships end?’ I mean we are told that friendship is an unsinkable ship but that’s what they also said about the titanic and look what happened there.  Sometimes friendships just don’t work out and here are a few reasons why: 

Growing up:                                                                                                                                                  
I know people who have been friends since they were in diapers but for some of us it doesn’t work that way. As we get older we realize how diverse we are and that our goals are totally different. We begin to drift apart and inevitably our friendship comes to an end.   

Distance:
This probably shouldn’t be a factor in our day and age with countless social networks to keep us connected but unfortunately it is.  Sometimes texts and phone calls are just not enough to keep friendships glued together.   

Stupid fights:
I had to add this one, pride what a terrible thing! You quarrel about a senseless matter but none of you want to apologise first and suddenly it has been days, weeks, months since you’ve last spoken.   

Jealousy:
Jealousy. Jealousy. Jealousy. Enough said.    

Lies:
The foundation of any friendship is trust.  You friend is in charge of watching your back and not sticking a knife in it. 

From time to time we need to remember that not everyone we lose is a loss.  We have had our moments and we have our memories but then again life goes on.  There are many fish in the sea but if your type are human beings well, there  are 7 billion of those. And remember sometimes you win….sometime you learn.

Tshegofatso Maseko

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